Monday, June 16, 2008

Count Your Blessings & The 80-20 Rule In Relationships



If you are in a relationship that meets 80% of your needs, count your blessings. If you are happy, regardless of the percentage of your needs that are met, then count your blessings. Most successful relationships may fit the 80-20 rule with 80% of your needs being met.

The danger is feeling dissatisfaction and acting destructively when the other 20% of your needs are not met. If you are searching for someone to fulfill 100% of your needs, I predict great disappointment or even failure in your relationship.

Clear communication is the key and if your significant other is not listening, both you and they must make choices that may be hard or easy depending on the negative impact your partner's actions may be having on you, or your actions may be having on your partner.

Dealing with conflict in relationships is not easy. The more we have invested in the relationship, the more interpersonal warfare hurts and should be avoided.

While you cannot remake your personality, you can show consideration for your partner. If your partner abhors procrastination, then you need to work on those behaviors. If you are angry, then you need to address those issues that make you angry.

Relationships are a two-way street and should not be abandoned lightly. When you breakup a relationship, you lose the shared history that is so meaningful to bond the couple or friends together.

A relationship that fulfills 80% of your needs should not be abandoned or lost by a search for fulfillment of the other 20% that you may be missing. No relationship is perfect. You can live your life always looking for a person to fulfill 100% of your needs; however, those who are "picky", or seeking perfection, should be prepared for a lot of misery.

Even when we find our "ideal mate" we should know that just as we will be growing, our partner will be growing too. The person you married 20 years ago is not the same person today, and neither are you.

Love is a beautiful thing and it should be cherished. Crazy making should be avoided for your peace of mind and for the sake of the love you have for your partner.

Compromise is essential in any relationship. Count your blessings when you are in a relationship. The singles scene is not a pleasant place to be and should be avoided if both partners are willing to work toward shared goals.

Give and take and you'll be more likely to be successful in your relationship. I encourage everyone to focus on the positives and count your blessings; after all, it is the right thing to do for a happier life.

Burton Fletcher
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